Just Be A Friend

Dear Aunt Babz,

ok so i have two very good friends. I find out they both like the same person but don't know that the other one does. So they both told me not to tell anyone and they are both really good friends of mine. I can't tell them because that would make me seem not trustworthy but i don't want them to get their feelings hurt. What should i do?



Dear Reader,

This one is a no-brainer. Stay out of it completely. You are right, they have both trusted you that their confidence will be kept, so make sure you keep your word. I would however talk to each of them separately about not getting their hopes up too high, and that no matter what they are valued.

In the end, one or both of them will end up hurt, because regardless this person they like will only pick one or neither of them to date. So you know what is going to happen, you just have to prepare to be a good friend and be there for them.

I hope this all resolves itself right away though, as I know the burden you must be feeling to tell each friend the others secret, and it is not easy when you are afraid to hurt someone. But by telling them, they will each be mad that you broke their trust, and will likely become competitive (which is not a good situation either) and stick you in the middle of a fight.

Keep the confidence, and just be a friend.

Good Luck,


~Xmichra

"Even the most brilliant minds, may have troubled Souls"