Saturday, July 25, 2009

Fighting Fire with Fire; SPIN

You may just call me crazy by the end of this post...




Dear Aunt Babs,

I have lived in a new subdivision for about 6 years with my husband and three young children. After the first year a 20's something women moved in next door with her husband and child. On our first introduction she wanted to know every detail of my home (example: square footage of rooms, window count, blah, blah). She made me feel very uneasy so I kept my distance from her, but I would still stay polite and engage in greetings and very small talk.

As we would make improvements to our home like landscaping, painting or basically anything visible. She would always inquire what was going on. I would always say something like oh my husband just likes to stay busy and he's just puttsing around. She would then go to my husband and ask him. I would tell him not to say too much to her because I had a bad feeling about her. But I guess his forty year old dumb ass just loved the attention she gave him. Soon after he would tell her what his plan was for our house, we would get letters from our assoctiation, town hall, and later the police.

She was psycho. But he didnt believe me. He told me I was jealous of her and that she likes him and not me.

Well as time went on it all escalated this is what she did to us:

She poisoned our vegetable garden every year (until she moved)
Screamed at my then 3 year old --It gave him nighmares for years to follow.
Repeatedly called and made false police reports against me.
Her and her friends made jokes about me being fat and old in front of my daughter.(She actually thought I was in my 30's and I'm only about 20 lbs overweight,she copied my hair, clothes,car.)
She would complain to my husband about how horrible I was when he was at work he just listened, never defended me -I overheard it happening once.
She would call town hall, the association for countless issues, and the police just to screw with us.
Throw dog and cat crap in my yard.
Put nails in our driveway (her husband was a carpenter.)
Got other neighbors that were even worse than her to screw with us while she lived there and after she moved away.

Well one day, when I was collecting baby stuff to donate. I was checking a baby monitor to see if it still was good.--Guess who's house had one?The B----dog's, (that is my pet name for her). Wow a gift from God. I soon found out what true evil was. Yes --I did listen. She was obsessed with us. I heard her planning to poison our garden (I taped it), heard her calling police, town and association on us; Telling everyone how much she hated me and that I am making her life miserable.

I never did anything to her. But when I heard her plans she was making to mess with us with her other evil friend and neighbor, I was able to counter them each and every time. It was sooo bad. I just hated the bad feeling of listening but I did protect my family and property. And I felt it was just such a time waster too, listening to her. I heard her beating up her husband, kids and just being very viscious and nasty to service workers, customer service people. B-dog feels she is entitled to everything.

My big opener was when she was bragging to her friend on how she is going to sue me for harrassment and sue my husband for messing up her yard from his landscaping work. She said she was building a case against us. About the landscaping, she tried so hard to get her husband to copy everything we did--I first though of it as "keeping up with the Jones" --but her husband messed up everything on his own under her direction.

That is when we got security cameras and put them on our garden and yard area. We prevented alot of damage to our property. We almost got her on camera poisoning our garden -But her friend noticed the cameras the day of the poisoning and she called the pd and tried to make us remove them. I told the pd the story they did nothing and I also mentioned the audio, the cop said he did not want to hear about it.

Well after a while the Bdog moved and her scumbag friends that live behind us picked where she left off and well it only got worse. But that is another story in itself.

Well a couple of weeks ago, my other next door neighbor had a party for his daughter. Guess who was there?The B-dog. The neighbor is about 44yrs old, newly divorced, he has a good job, 18 yr daughter, 24 yrs old- drug/addict/on parole son, beautiful house and plenty of cash.She is his new Girlfriend. OMG. She is on the other side of me now. He was my best neighbor.He knew that she was awful to us and wost of all she is married with two sons about 3 and 5ish.

Well, when I first saw her my chest got tight and I was surprised, but I remained cool and just kept laughing. I did not interupt the party But we did leave early.

My husband wants to "bust" her and tell her husband what a slut she is and provide him with pictures that he has taken. I would like to do the same but... I have second thoughts. I think the husband would just tell her the info and she would retaliate My nieghbor guy would hate us. She might get kicked out and move in with him sooner that planned. I think she is screwing this guy for extra money and nice things. I also believe that her husband is not cutting it and not working enough to pay bills and mortgage. I think she is looking to upgrade husbands so she can maintain her status.

My question is should we get our revenge on her as mentioned? Or should we just sit back and watch her move in next door. We cannot afford to sell our house to move at this time due to the economy and my husband just got back to work two months ago.

Or if you have any other suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it. I just want the b-dog and the anxiety to go away. I hate the feeling of her threatening my kids and me. I do not want to be her victim. But everytime I was passive with her, She always always turned it up a notch. I am 47 yrs old and I'm afraid she will get physical with me .-I have seen her wrestle other women before. Like her girlfriend that lives behind, us they always wrestle and makeout.I guess thats what they do nowadays.

Thank You for your time.
The BlondeMom



If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang.
~Charley Reese


Dearest BlondeMom,

Wow, you've got your hands full. What a stinkin' wanna be Bitch, huh? I really really can't stand a no count girl like that. She's not a woman so I don't even give her that. One thing I will say I believe; She's so jealous of you she's livid. I mean really why else would she bother with you?

It's obvious that the police don't seem to want to be bothered with what they might term as "Domestic Squabbling." Or Or Or she's blowing the Force and feeding them creme filled donuts made personally by hers truly. {Note to self; Be nice}

Well
BlondeMom, I'm old school. I'm Fighting Irish and have been fighting the good fight all my life...well short of those bad girl years I had(but we won't dwell on that, eh?). Suffice it to say, she's a bully, loud and clear. And the thing they've proven about bullies is that they almost always have self-esteem issues thus they use fear to garner respect.

Fighting Fire with Fire

Sometimes ya just gotta get Medieval on their asses and show them how to play the game. Now, Buck the F**k up. This ain't no Pep Talk but simply how you need to begin to see things. Hopefully, your eyes will become wide open. Yes, I want you to begin to see her for what she really is;

"A No Count Piece of Shit Wanna Be Woman"
(But she's really just a lil' girl in big clothes)


Sure she's a tough one but DO NOT be afraid of her in any way, shape or form. This is what she wants and...she can smell the fear. Let me repeat myself and I quote,

"One thing I will say I believe; She's so jealous of you she's livid. I mean really why else would she bother with you?"


I say this with all the certainty in my being. She wants what you have and knows she'll never have it. So, she plays her dirty little games doing her damnedest to best you. You'll have to have a strategy to show her really how the game is played. It does not entail being vindictive or getting even. Nope, it's called;
"Being & Becoming a Righteous Woman," which by the way, she'll never be and can not copy.

You will rise above this, all of it. You will no longer be a victim nor will you be passive. You should take comfort and gain strength just knowing that you have what she wishes she could. But we need not concentrate on this. What you need to do is begin to play the Game...

I would start by spinning a web, spreading a little gossip to someone you know it'll find it's way back to her. I'm quite sure she has a double agent, you know someone who pretends to be your friend yet goes back and tells her everything.

Spin: I would tell this person that you have a friend of the family, a not so nice guy that has seen all the evidence and is working on this. Now, make sure you ask this person not to tell anybody. (Of course, they'll run right back and spill their guts, hopefully).

Spin: You tell them that this not so nice friend of the family is a Private Detective and he's working on the case. You say he's compiling pictures, etc. to use against her. You make sure you mention that he has friends in "High Places" and he plays on both sides of the Law. You give them a few tidbits, morsels to mull over, i.e., that this guy once planted drugs on a guy that had caused a bunch of trouble.

Spin: Then tell them that the guy and his wife went to jail for it. Giggle and say that the Private Dicks client was more than pleased as the pair went away for a few years.

Spin: Then you mention on the D.L. (down low, just in case, lol)that this P.I. is cooking up something real good to handle this all and won't even tell you what it is that way you are not nor will you ever be implicated.

This may make her a bit paranoid enough to leave you alone and to mind her own P's & Q's...

Now, in the event that all this is not possible (I believe it'll work if you set it into action and think about it carefully) I want you to begin a program of assertive posturing. I no longer want you to be a victim in this. I no longer want you to be passive either. You'll put on your "Bitch Belt
" and rise above.

See, I'm a firm believer in a few things, namely body language, innuendo and how one carries themselves. Now, I'm not talking about acting superior or egotistical but you are so far above her it is almost debilitating to her. This is why she targets you. It's actually become an obsession for her.

From this point on, I'd like you to be aware of your posture. If you happen to see her, do not look into the face of fear but put that fear in it's place. I mean, for real, she has no power over you unless you let her. Take it back!!!

No, you'll face this fear, if you happen to run across her and you'll not look away. In fact, you'll look her straight in the face, with a twinkle in your eye as if you have some dirty little secret and you are holding in the laughter. It's excruciatingly funny and it's all you can do to contain it.

She's nothing but a redneck bully, a covetous whore. See her for what she really is and no longer allow her to intimidate you in any way.

My Advice would be to first pray for wisdom, strength and guidance. This should always be your first and foremost direction. And if the afore mentioned SPIN does not work, write me again and I'll tell you all about our Plan B...


Keeping It Real,

Aunt B

P.S.
May my good friend, Mz. Karma Bitchslap™ be with you!!


“When you're a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.”

Sasha Azevedo quotes (American Actress, Athlete and Model)

Romans 12:19
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

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Friday, July 17, 2009

This Quest


Dear Aunt B,

I am having an ongoing argument with my live in BF of 4 years over the same subject..vacations. Ridiculous isn't it? here's the situation;

My view, age 45:I have been waiting for ten years to finally be-able to afford a vacation. If I don't get one this year i am going to lose it! in the last 3 years I have lost a baby, the love of my life during a 1 year separation (current BF), I have seen death's door in a submersion of depression and work like a horse...I mean i cut all the wood for the winter tend a huge veggie farm and do much of the bull work. I have lost faith in God from all of the losses and need to get out to the mountains to rejuvenate to fill up my heart and soul and find my inner self again. i have lost me.

MY BF knows this and has taken an invitation from his brother and friend to go to Colorado for a 2 week mountain climbing trip (My dream vacation). i am told i am not allowed to come as it is a guys only trip and the other guys don't want me along. Since he can only afford one vacation, he has chosen to go with the guys and leave me to not have a much needed vacation at all or find a stranger or go myself. None of those choices are my idea of a happy vacation. I feel that we are partners and that i am the woman standing next to him daily through all the blood sweat and tears and deserve this much awaited award...something to look forward to. Insists i am only thinking of myself and being selfish for wanting him to go with me instead of his buddies.

This is the 3rd time in 5 years he has gone on this trip. His brother offered to pay his way to go and that is why he says he is going and it's "just a camping trip" in the meantime I try desperately to find a stranger to go with...i finally did and he then offered to meet with me out in Colorado (2,000 miles away) when he got off the mountain and would then go where i wanted to.

It's 2 days before he is to leave before me and he tells me that he feels that he is forced to have offered his car for me to drive out there which is 25 years old as it is our only working vehicle and that he feels forced to have to spend money now because i insist i need a vacation too. DUH! Considering the consequences of his bitterness and resentment toward me using HIS car and having to spend his money to go with me and share experiences i decided not to go at all with those kind of strings attached. this is to be a purging spiritual experience for me not a endless fight dredging up how i used his car ETC.. he stormed out the door with bags in hand a night before he was supposed to leave telling me how unreasonable I am for expecting him to be happy about going with me too and expecting him to offer his car to me for OUR vacation. Now i am stuck at home with no where to go and no way to do it, and no one to go with...he stranded me here out in the country with no vehicle. I am wondering now if I should start packing his things while he is gone and find someone that does put me first in their life instead of his buddies who don't do a single thing for his life on any given day. i had suggested to him that they make plans the next time somewhere closer to home if they wanted to see each other so bad so that i didn't have to pay the price for it and be forced to step aside my well deserved vacation for him and his buddies. he tells me i am dictating how they should spend THEIR vacation and that I am a selfish tyrant insisting he compromise.

HIS perspective Age 46: He feels that since him and his brother and friends have been doing this for the last 20 years before he ever met me that he is justified in continuing to obligate their wishes anytime they want him to go and i dare not interfere with that. He also feels that he is not purposely hurting me or forcing me to have no options. Both his brother and friend are single for many years now. they all feel that they have not hurt me and that it is my own fault (screaming it at the top of his lungs)that I am not going on vacation anyways by myself with no one to share it with. i am stuck, stranded and have no where to go. He feels that my insisting that i as his partner be first priority at all times is unreasonable and calls me immature and an insecure child. What do you think? he needs to hear this from a third party. i know what I think...he's the child and he needs to grow up and find another door mat that might accept that kind of bull.

thank you,
Wendy

Dear Wendy,

Dear, Dear Wendy!! GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP!!!
Dude is 46 and is *not* going to change.

He is obviously never one to compromise, and is definitely acting like a child.
Regardless of you *needing* the vacation (I’ll get back to THAT), he should at least be able to compromise enough for him to go away for his boys only trip (some guys do this, the trip itself isn’t a bad thing) and you on a trip that is equally special.

Now, this entire bullshit about him feeling pushed into stuff, that is what pisses me off. And I’m just reading it!! These are the things that to ME set aside the difference of a working partnership, to a live in friend with few benefits. A partner wouldn’t feel they were being pushed to lending a freaking car, so you can get some much needed relaxation!! Hell, a friend would do that!


You need a break and want to share it with your partner, that is NOT unreasonable. Given the amount of things you have gone through, I would expect my partner to be understanding and want to help the healing process.

Yes, the boys only trip is important, but you are not asking him to forfeit every year! Yes, i understand that he can only do one trip, but he has to think about what is imperative to the situation.
What I mean is, if he (for example) started a new job yesterday, and it was a good job that would fulfill him through the rest of his life, and he couldn’t go on this trip without losing the job, would he still go?

A relationship is just like a job. You have to show up, you have to have interest, and you have to put in a little extra over time when the companies had a bad week/month/year. It’s the same thing. If you don’t commit to the job, you’re fired. It’s that simple.
But for some, they can’t see that. And it is sad when a person cannot acknowledge their partners wish to heal as a healing cry.

It’s sad when a person see’s only what they stand to “lose” to make a relationship work. And it is even more sad when that loss is something material or something that can be postponed. It’s sad because it shows they are not willing to bend, and are too selfish to see it.
Honestly Wendy, I would be packing more than a vacation trunk for this guy. Just sayin’.

Hope you GO on that trip & find your inner spark!


~Xmichra
Dear Wendy,

By the way, did you know the history of your name? I found it interesting that your name, "Wendy" was never used or recorded but invented for the story of Peter Pan. Pretty cool, I think.
Read this link, it refutes the rumor, possibly but it is interesting nonetheless!

Anyway, I have/had real mixed emotions reading your letter.
I am able to see both points of view. You are both right and you are both wrong. It's a bit unfortunate. I will put all of this into perspective and try to be as delicate with your feelings as I possibly can.

OK, now I'd like you to read things as I write them in their entirety. This situation is a bit cruel for both of you. None of this is fair but allow me to point out a few things;

Your BF has every right in the world to want to go on this all guys camping trip. In your own words you stated that he HAS in fact gone on this trip 3 times out of the last 5 years, right?It's not like it's a new gig and he just pulled it out of his ass, deciding to go simply to spite you.
Do you agree about this?

As well, most guy trips are exactly that. I am referring to the typical members of the "He Man Women Haters Club." I am joking but at the same time for you to take it personal that you are not nor would you ever be invited is simply something you'll have to try to understand. It's just the way the ball bounces.

It's clearly a family thing, one which they've been doing for many years. You wrote, and I quote;

"...(My dream vacation). i am told i am not allowed to come as it is a guys only trip and the other guys don't want me along."

It seems to me that you've taken this whole thing quite personally and have a somewhat vindictive edge to your own thinking. This does not mean that I, in any way or fashion, discount your feelings on the matter. But we must establish what is fair and what is not.

It is not fair for you to interject yourself into this family/guy thing. At the same time, the mere fact that you've not had a vacation in so long, while he has brings around many emotion and questions.

So, it's like this; You've sacrificed, you've toiled and worked hard. You've been on the brink of disastrous thinking, skirting the edges of depression but you've pushed on. You've been through your fair share of a whole plate of bullshit that life has thrown at you...and survived. Now, it's time for you to be, for better words: self-serving, not selfish and to look out for numero uno.

You stated that you need, basically a Spiritual outing/vacation, a need to revamp of sorts. The defining question would be;

"Why would you want him on such a quest in the first place?"


I see far beyond this initial bullshit, far beyond this relationship. And in this situation, I will not encourage you to put his shit on the door step, to leave him as this is a test for both of you. It is a test of the wherewithal and you moving past, rising above and becoming who you can and will be.

I am not trying to speak in riddles, nor am I applying some bullshit strategy to the mix. But what I see and feel are that you must, you need to go on This Quest on your own. Somehow, someway make it happen.

You will no longer be a Martyr for the cause of you two and you will not be a victim. You will rise above. I have every bit of confidence in you as a woman, the kind of woman that I admire, the kind that shitz-n-getz, oh yea.

Need I remind you that you do not need a man to round out who you are!
My point to all this is first and foremost remember that you and this fella are not joined at the hip. In order for any and all relationships to work you must both be whole beings. Your quest must be to become whole again. Do this for you. I feel it may be the single most important thing you need, your agenda right now.

Stinkin' Thinkin'

I do firmly believe that if you can move past the way you think about some things, it will be your greatest asset. You are such a strong woman of such conviction I can not fathom how you would allow this whole thing to usurp your design. You are above this and you just need a refresher course in empowerment and a fresh way of seeing the world.

Yes, you do need this vacation but for you and you only. It will round out who you are meant to be. Watch and see..



Keeping It Real,


Aunt B


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Friday, July 10, 2009

The Nitty Gritty



Dear Aunt B,

Hello.

My name is Andrew I am 43 and my biological father who abandoned our family when I was 6 years old has been told he has 2 to 6 months to live (he has cancer)....I haven't seen or heard of him since I was 6 (and even then he was a violent alcoholic)....I am recently unemployed and have 15 days to accept a new job offer 2000 miles from where my father has chosen to pass away at....on one hand I feel a moral obligation towards him....but on the other hand he is a stranger to me...and I was given up for adoption as a child (because we were six kids in the family and my mother could not care for all of us)....I really need this job...this may sound callus but the reality is when he passes his worldly concerns are over but mine go on...I'm torn between morality and reality...what are your thoughts?

Andrew



Dear Andrew,

I will flat out tell you I am a little biased here because of a similar situation with my own bio-dad. So you can choose to ignore me because of that, or choose to listen a little more. Whichever the case is, I will still answer what I feel.

Go to your job.

It doesn’t sound callous, morally wrong, or even cruel. Your situation is that where you have a longing to have your father be your dad, and to be accepted, nurtured & loved the way a child (even us adult ones) should. You are looking at staying and helping him as a way to try and mend the past 43 years. I get that.



Here are a few things i want you to consider though:

You really need this job.

HE has chosen where he wants to live out his final days. He could move.

You need to survive.


The only reason for you to stay would be out of pure guilt. But you are a good person still if you choose to go, really. This decision isn’t the easiest for a heavy heart, but you need to realise that it doesn’t matter about biology, it matters if you are real family. And anyone real would encourage you to go and make yourself well.

In the end, you need to choose what you can live with once he’s gone. *sigh*, i get that too.

But for the record, i hope you take the job & let the dream of a father go. You deserve more.


Wishing you strength & wisdom,

~Xmichra


Dear Andrew,

I'm imagining from the date, the receipt of your letter that you may have had to make this decision on and of your own. For this, I do apologize. I've been away and all mail was stuck in my folders. Staff did not have access because of a glitch. Again, I apologize.

At the same time, I have faith that you've made the right choice and have done what needed to be done. My only hope is that you've made decisions, one that you can live with.

Life is certainly full of every day situations and decisions we must make, choices we often must or will answer to later in life. This, your situation is a bit unfortunate simply because there will come a time, one day in the future where you will question whatever decision you've made.

The crux of the matter is to live by the rule that you live and do things, make those choices that you will be able to look at yourself in the mirror and really look at yourself and not past yourself. One day you will understand what I'm talking about.

In this situation, your circumstance, there is no comfortable answer. There is no magic choice and there's certainly no plausible solution that will remain wearable. But life must go on and when it's all said and done, you must live and live without regret the best way you know how.

The nitty gritty of all this is for you to be there as best you can, as best you know how for your Father but from a distance, whatever distance that is required for you to accomplish the necessary. Yes, it is unfortunate that the circumstances can't be better but that, like many other things which I guarantee will come along, is just an example of making mature and rational decisions...sometimes no matter how painful they might be.

I encourage you to do what is best for you, for your future. I also encourage you to find some semblance of a forgiving heart, a balance of letting bygone's be bygone's. I know it may be easier said than done but do me a favor and at least put that pain on hold.

This may be a tall order, asking you to put aside bad memories and especially anger. But one thing I have learned in this life is that anger kills, it serves no one, certainly not you. Yes, you may feel you have a right to this anger but again, it will not serve you.

What will serve you is to be the bigger, the better person and allow the end to be something that you can live with. You will, I hope, write me later and tell me that I was right.

Keeping It Real,


Aunt B


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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Safety & Serenity

Aunt B,

I watch the news and I seen a lot of people who are raped, murdered, or missing. I am married, my husband works nights and I have a big 152 pound Bullmastiff/American Bulldog mix and I hate to be alone because I fear for my safety. I was wondering if you could give me and my husband some pointers on how to stay safe when I am just alone or alone with my dog. I try not to worry. But would like to stay safe not sorry.
Thanks,
safety




Dear Concerned for Safety,


We want to be safe and sound no matter where we are, but the best prepared people can still be in unfortunate circumstances. So it is hard to say the best way to stay safe, but I will give you pointers for yourself, and your home to try and help ease your mind that you have done everything you can to safeguard yourself while home alone.

I would advise you to turn off the TV though, because it is doing nothing but making you paranoid. Yes, it is a reality that people are harming people in our world. But we do not need to be so consumed and afraid by this that it hinders our everyday life.

So with that in mind, here are a few things you can do:



1)- BE AWARE. Crime stats are different than news stories.

a) Criminal damage (including vandalism and arson): 8% of households were affected.

b) Burglary: 2% of households were affected. Domestic burglary peaked in 1993 and has now returned to the same level as 1981.

c) Theft (including mugging, bicycle and household theft): 14% of the population was affected.

d) Sexual offences: 3% of women and 1% of men were affected.

e) Vehicle theft: 7% of households were affected. Car theft peaked a few years ago and has now reduced to the same rate as 1981.

f) Card fraud: 3% of card users were affected in 2004. 1% of the population was affected by fraud or forgery (all types) last year.



These statistics were from this site: http://www.personalsafetyadvice.co.uk/StayingCrimeAware.html and they have pointed out ways to help you secure yourself with personal theft, criminal damage and thievery from vehicles (the top three percentiles). That site also has a lot of other really great security measures for on-line, after dark safety, etc that you may want to look at.



2) Get a security system installed, and display the signage of the alarm on your property or on the front door (which should have a peep hole in it). When your husband leaves for work, you can set the alarm up on perimeter (obviously because you will still be walking around inside). Depending on if you own a house or apartment will depend on the cost. Initial cost for set up will depend on how many doors/windows you would like secured but the initial set up is often free with extended contract.



3) Keep a cell phone or portable phone with you at all times. If someone is breaking into your house, you can call for help – but not if you don’t know where the phone is!



4) Don’t tell people you are alone. I mean NO ONE. On-line people often forget that just because a person tells you they are in New York, and you are sitting in Santa Barbra doesn’t mean they are where they say they are, you have no idea. They could be right next door. So be aware of who you are telling things too. Not just on-line either; watch your tongue at work, at the mall, on your phone. Just be aware that people are listening in.



5) If you still feel unsafe, you can take a self defence class so that you can try and protect yourself if something were to happen. Classes are typically held at YMCA|YWCA or community class centers (leisure centers etc).



6) And last on my list (because of controversy), you can get a gun for your home. But guns are only as good as the person wielding it, and should be taken as a serious responsibility. You should have taken lessons and KNOW how to wield a weapon, any weapon, the same as you would get trained to drive a car. So if you do not intend to take on the responsibility of gun ownership (this is learning how to shoot, getting a license, cleaning your weapon regularly, making sure it its in your possession and not stolen) then you definitely should not get one.



These are just some of the things you can do to better secure yourself while home alone. Hopefully this will help to ease your mind.

Wishing You Safety & Serenity,

~Xmichra~


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Friday, July 3, 2009

"As My World Breeds"


Dear Readers,

The Soap Opera that unfolds in front of me, the story of my life is;

"As My World Breeds"


Yes, we have a new little one, Jaxon Aiden, who'll be coming home tomorrow(God willing). My son Bill, his father calls him, "Wee Bugger," as he is only 5lbs 4oz. He's perfect in every way though.

Weary from his participation, I presume, my son slept on the couch, a few short hours after staying up all night, unable to sleep in anticipation of Jaxon's birth. They had to be at the hospital @6am for the scheduled C-Section and I stayed with his other two kids, Lil' Bill & Samantha.

Before I was able to inspect him personally, I watched the video of Jaxon's birth, along with Sam. I cried like an imbecile, a blithering idiot, a goofball Grandma. Aw, such is my life.


Yes, it all came rushing back to me. The last child I gave birth to, my last son, Waylon, was 10lbs. 5oz., Jaxon weighing half of that. And so I'm quite sure that a baby that little just might fall out undetected. I can see me at the Supermarket, "Hey Lady, did you drop something?"

Yes, my son was huge at 10lbs 4oz. and 23 inches long. He also had a full goatee and immediately asked me for the car keys.
I never walked the same after having Waylon but was always proud to say I had given birth "Naturally."

One thing I learned though, after their father died and I began dating was to never tell that story and add, excitedly, "And guess what? I gave birth to him and didn't even have to have stitches."


I thank everyone for their comments and prayers alike. Jaxon, which by the way, I just love that name, is so damn cute with his little ears and lips, nose and toes, all ten of them.

And I'm more than grateful that he is healthy. That is something of which in this family, we do not take for granted considering I have two grandchildren with Cystic Fibrosis.


God is good, every day, all the time and all though we've had many scary situations, times where faith is called into works, these two of my grandbabies, Kassandra and Austen aka, Lil' Man are basically healthy and happy.

I Am Grandma, HaHaHaHa!!!


Keeping It Real,

Aunt B
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Thursday, July 2, 2009

My Hero; The Fruitcake Lady

Dear Readers,

This woman, Marie Rudisill (13 March 1911 - 3 November 2006)is my Hero and a complete and utter inspiration. As I grow older, I do so aspire to be just like her. Keep reading Ask Aunt B and ya never know, I just may grow up to be just like her. I do happen to believe if it's at all possible, I just might have a sassy, edgier attitude. We shall see. Enjoy, comment and let me know what you think!


Keeping It Real,


Aunt B





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