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Dear Aunt Babz,
You are truly a class act! Thanks so much for your very thorough and thoughtful reply. You have much wisdom to offer. I hope you are over the flu.
Yes, you were right about the slap. Though in all honesty, it was more embarrassing than painful. And I dunno, it was kinda sexy in a retro sorta way....or maybe I'm just a sicko, lol
I guess still feel conflicted about the whole incident. She really seemed like a sweet, classy woman so I do feel badly that I upset her. Her parents emigrated here from the Philippines and she seemed to have very traditional values and was passionate about teaching.
I do have her email address. Think I should send her an apology note? Maybe even try for a coffee date?
We really appreciated hearing from you, especially the complimentals. I'm also grateful for your kind concern over this Flu. I am slow but steady now as before I was slow and slurpy, can you say eeeew?
Well, let's get down to business...
A lot is explained in the fact that your lady friend is Filipino.I know a thing or two when it comes to the stringent values and beliefs shared by the Filipino's as our family Nanny, Clara Del Mar, was from the Philippine's. She helped raise my brothers and lil' sister as well as minded after my own when they were little. Clara was more than a Nanny though, she was family.
Yes, that statement alone explicates the scenario, especially the slap happy part. Your gal pal comes from, as you stated, "very traditional values," a world still set apart. There's a lot of history, you may enjoy learning, if you've not already about the Philippine's and the Americanization thereof.
I find it intriguing that you'd still want to play out another scene from an old movie. I don't know is a Casablanca Complex(another fine Babzizm)? Is it the thrill of the kill, so to speak, you know to conquer and tame the unbridled fury of a fine Filipino woman?
Back to your question...I have a tad bit of mixed emotions on this, to be honest. It may be a loyalty, my protective nature. At the same time, I'll tell you what I'd tell all my own boys;
"Live on the edge just like Mama. Hell, I'm such a Rebel, I refuse to rewind any of my DVD's before I take them back to Blockbuster."
So my Darling Kevin, I give my blessings and advise you to possibly write her an email. I would first point out that you realize how impersonal it is to send an email but you just can't continue having this "unsettling issue" on your mind or something along those lines. Tell her that you never intended to offend her and in your mind it was the highest compliment you could have ever imparted!
Keeping It Real,
Do Women Still Slap Men?