Reality

My Dearest Readers,

I'd written this comment to a young man, a few years ago. He happens to be Gay and was having a hard time with his identity. I'd found it, the comment, on his website. He'd posted it as a separate post as he'd stated he felt he needed to hear it.

Maybe, you might need to hear it especially if you are young and you may also be coming to grips with who you are and/or questioning just what the hell life is actually all about???

Growing up is never easy and we tend to spend our youth always wishing we were older. Once we reach and become "of age" we find all the duty and responsibility that comes along with being and becoming an adult, well, it sure ain't a bowl of cherries. The next thing ya know, you're wishing you could still be a kid again. Yes, when life was not so complex and possibly less painful.

So, if you're young and happen to be reading this, the best advice I could give you is to not rush to be an adult, it's not all it's cracked up to be, believe me. Always strive to be yourself, treat others as you want to be treated, say what needs to be said as tomorrow is never promised. Yes, live like there's no tomorrow and...

Reality. Some people have it all in this world. Some of us don't have a pot to piss in. It is good to strive to be in the middle cause anything else is just gravy. Don't expect it and it won't be a disappointment.

Aim high but stay low, don't ever be pretentious and things will fall in to place. Don't sweat the small shit and it's all small shit. Very important! But equally important, don't wait for anybody to save your ass. You are alone.

Whomever you choose to cushion your world with is a bonus but don't count on it. Have a higher power. Gay or not, God knows who you are and loves you. Does he make mistakes? I think not and he created you in His image. It is deviant behavior that he doesn't like and you know what I'm talking about, those nasty trollops.

Fail to plan, plan to fail but don't obsess. Don't be lazy. If something needs to be done that's important, you'll feel much better getting it done, then you can breathe. But those f'n dishes can wait when it's time to enjoy what life's really all about:

'Love, Laughter and Family'

Keeping It Real,

Aunt B

Nothing Is Taboo; Spanking

Hi Aunt B,

I am 61 male and have a desire to be bent over a woman's knee for a spanking is this normal and what should i do?


Dear Reader,


First question, yes it is normal. It is normal to fantasize about a plethora of things actually. And this is one of the ones where making it a reality isn’t a bad thing. There are plenty of people who like S&M (you would be a submissive in this action) and where this is not doing any harm to anyone I don’t see why you can’t see it to fruition.


On that note, you don’t specify if you are single or married/attached. This is important, because if you are you should share your desires with your mate. I cannot stress this enough. If you choose to pursue this desire without your partner... okay, well I would just simply advise you to not do that. Your desire isn’t sick or weird, it is a fantasy. If your partner isn’t “into” it that is fine as well. But you should share this about yourself.


There is a ton of reading material that you can research about spanking/S&M/etc. Make sure you are reading the right things (because some are just fantasy forums, and some are full of dogma) to get to know the “why” if you are interested. But the general want to be spanked isn’t abnormal.


When you do decide to pursue this desire with someone, please be sure to talk about it and not just spring it on them (talking about something socialy accepted as taboo requires buildup) and I again would strongly advise you to pursue this with a person who cares for you, because sometimes we will desire something but once we are *there* we change our mind, or decide it isn't what you'd thought it would feel like. So you want to have a safe environment with someone you trust.


I hope you find the right time/place/person to share you desire with.

~ Xmichra

Soulseer Said...

Dear Reader,

Many people have become desensitized to regular porn or regular sex because we are over saturated with it and by it. You can get regular porn anywhere now. But I would say that it's absolutely normal that you being a man would want to give up, um, and it's a power shift that you would want to give up power and release to being dominated and a lot of men are like this. They like to be sexually dominated because in real life they are almost always in power and responsible or held responsible and this is a way of giving up that power in a controlled setting.

Check out alt.com This is a fetish website which deals w/every fetish out there, pretty much. But you know, in closing it's absolutely normal and you should not ever be ashamed of it and maybe I encourage you to follow your dreams. Get yo freak on!!!

Be Yourself,

Soulseer

Dear Friend,

When we say "Nothing Is Taboo" when answering your questions, well you can see we mean it. I say this because some may think this is a taboo subject. I do not think it is and I happen to think if this is how you feel and it harms no one, then I see no problem with it.

Believe it or not, this may stem from how you were disciplined as a child. Yes, some children, in order to get attention will quite often do negative things in order to get that attention. Were you a mischievous young man?

I'm surprised that at 61 you are just now delving into this? Or perhaps you are just now realizing your fantasy about this? It could be that you are just now venting or admitting that this is what trips your trigger. Again, I see nothing wrong with it.

If you Google the word "Spanking" you will get an array of links, some suggesting the etymology of the word like in Wikipedia .Other links may lead you to such sites as the Spanking Club of New York. If you research this or even go into some of these sites you may very well find interested parties and fellow fetish friends.

And yet again, if you look around and just Google the word spanking as I said, you will find a lot of people that are into the same thing thus proving that you are not alone. I suggest that you do as I said, take a gander at some of these links where you just might find yourself at home, on familiar ground and you never know...a friend indeed who just might accommodate your very wish. Happy Hunting!!!


Keeping It Real,

Aunt B

Take Responsibility

Dear Aunt B,

ok well im in a relations ship right now ive been datin him for about a year and half but been together together for 2months this happened bout a month a go but anywho when we first started talking i didnt take it as serious as i do now bc at first he wasnt really acting like he wanted to be serious and now u can just tell and i made a huge mistake and slept with an x and the condom broke and now idk what to do bc im late and im just prayin i get ma period but how do i tell ma bf in fact i am that it may not be his ?? or should i tell him at all the other guy and i talked and he said he would pay for an abortion but i just dont believe in that but i dont wanna loose ma bf i love him so much and made a terrible mistake HELP!!!


Dear Reader,

Okay, so let me see if I got this right: You are with guy #1. You and he weren’t “serious” up until a few months ago. And in that time you had sex with guy #2, the condom broke and you might be pregnant, and now you don’t know what to do.


First off, do you know for sure you’re pregnant? Did you take a test? See a doctor? You need to find out, and right away. Now, I am not an advocate for abortion in this situation at all, but if you want options you have to know rather quickly what you are doing. Personally, you said you don’t believe in abortion, so I would tell you o take that right off the list of options. If you had an abortion under duress, you will regret it and you will be mentally fucked. Guaranteed. You need to be responsible, stop worrying about the guys and what will/might happen and do what you need to do for your body, and your baby (if you are pregnant). So, step one, get tested!

Deciding to tell your guy #1 about your cheating is up to you. But if you are pregnant, and it *might not* be his baby, he has every right to know.

Not to mention, Just imagine you keep this from him, you two get married, your baby grows into a child say 5 or 6 and falls off the monkey bars at the playground, breaks their leg pretty badly and losses blood. Your guy wants to give *his* child blood and wait, what?, the blood doesn’t match??


YA. You see how that works? And don’t for one second think something won’t happen to divulge your secret. It will. And you will walk on egg shells every day of your life trying to avoid it, and will be wrapped in a web of lies. This is no way to live, no way to raise a child, no way to LOVE. If you are pregnant, step two: come clean.


After that, who knows what will happen. But you need to take responsibility (step 3) for what has happened, and you need to stop thinking of just yourself, it isn’t just about you anymore.


So, to recap: step 1, get tested. Step 2, fess up. Step 3, take responsibility. That is my advice. I wish you the courage and strength to do this, and to learn from your mistakes.

~Xmichra.